{"id":8972,"date":"2025-07-30T02:01:19","date_gmt":"2025-07-30T02:01:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/placedesnations.org\/index.php\/2025\/07\/30\/i-was-a-shopping-addict-it-needs-to-be-taken-more-seriously\/"},"modified":"2025-07-30T02:01:19","modified_gmt":"2025-07-30T02:01:19","slug":"i-was-a-shopping-addict-it-needs-to-be-taken-more-seriously","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/placedesnations.org\/index.php\/2025\/07\/30\/i-was-a-shopping-addict-it-needs-to-be-taken-more-seriously\/","title":{"rendered":"&lsquo;I was a shopping addict &#8211; it needs to be taken more seriously&rsquo;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A day of retail therapy can be just the ticket for some people to help them feel better about themselves. But what happens when you can&rsquo;t stop shopping?<\/p>\n<p>Surrounded by racks of shirts, dresses and jumpers, Lucy tells me that she could spend up to 14 hours a day searching out new clothes as an escape from reality.<\/p>\n<p>The 37-year-old&rsquo;s life may sound like a dream, but Lucy is clear that excessive shopping damaged her life.<\/p>\n<p>At one point, Lucy found herself not paying her bills so she could continue to buy clothes.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0It&rsquo;s like a physical and an emotional drowning. I have felt like I&rsquo;m just under a weight of clothes constantly,\u00a0\u00bb she says.<\/p>\n<p>Lucy has no idea how many garments she owns, but they take up an entire room in her West Yorkshire home as well as several suitcases &#8211; and a 35 sq ft storage unit.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0Clothes acted like an armour to not feel the feelings that I did in real life,\u00a0\u00bb she explains.<\/p>\n<p>Lucy set up a fashion Instagram account and her shopping eventually \u00ab\u00a0spiralled\u00a0\u00bb to the point that she was spending \u00a3700 per week &#8211; eventually racking up \u00a312,000 of debt.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0It was the first thing I would think about when I woke up.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0You keep looking for clothes in the same way someone might keep drinking because they haven&rsquo;t quite reached the point of escapism they were hoping to reach,\u00a0\u00bb she recalls as she continues to recover.<\/p>\n<p>She says seeing influencers online with copious amount of clothes \u00ab\u00a0normalised\u00a0\u00bb her habits.<\/p>\n<p>It was not until a therapist told her she may have oniomania &#8211; the compulsive urge to buy things &#8211; that she realised it was possible to be addicted to shopping.<\/p>\n<p>She describes the second in her NHS Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) session that she heard about the disorder as a \u00ab\u00a0penny drop\u00a0\u00bb moment.<\/p>\n<p>Shopping addiction, also known as compulsive buying disorder or oniomania, is when a person feels an uncontrollable need to shop and spend, despite the negative consequences.<\/p>\n<p>It is not known how many people have it. A review of research suggests it affects around 5% of adults but a more recent study says it may have risen to 10% since the pandemic.<\/p>\n<p>Now Lucy and others across the UK are calling for a better understanding of the condition and for more support from the NHS.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0I think the resources are currently lacking. The research and understanding of oniomania is just not there in the same way as addiction to substances,\u00a0\u00bb Lucy says.<\/p>\n<p>Natalie has what she calls her \u00ab\u00a0cupboard of doom\u00a0\u00bb with more than 10,000 household items in her Rotherham home.<\/p>\n<p>For the 40-year-old, her Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) \u00ab\u00a0triggers\u00a0\u00bb her to buy certain things &#8211; including a particular number of items and colours.<\/p>\n<p>The cupboard is home to 300 tubes of toothpaste and 3,000 washing pods.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0It just escalated to the point where I was going out and just wasn&rsquo;t settled until my boot was full of stuff,\u00a0\u00bb Natalie says.<\/p>\n<p>At the peak of her addiction, she would be at the shops every day and could spend up to \u00a33,000 a month &#8211; including \u00a31,000 on toiletries.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0I cannot stop &#8211; and I do not want to stop either. If I see something online, I need it. I don&rsquo;t care how I get it, I need to get it.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>The mother-of-one recently spent \u00a31,000 while on a flight &#8211; mainly on perfumes &#8211; and says she has about 400 fragrances, bought in little more than two years.<\/p>\n<p>Natalie, who works in private nursing, says ads have a \u00ab\u00a0massive effect\u00a0\u00bb on her buying habits and she can spend around six hours a day watching perfume videos online when she is not working.<\/p>\n<p>She has undergone therapy both within the NHS and privately, but feels it was not successful as she is not yet ready to stop &#8211; but is focused on trying to cut her shopping.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0I think every addiction should be treated the same and more help and therapy should be available [from the NHS] to people who want it,\u00a0\u00bb she adds.<\/p>\n<p>The BBC has spoken to 15 people who feel they have a shopping addiction.<\/p>\n<p>Many talked of a mental toll and feelings of guilt and shame. One said they developed an eating disorder as a result, and another said it became a \u00ab\u00a0monster\u00a0\u00bb in their life.<\/p>\n<p>All felt that social media contributed to their addiction.<\/p>\n<p>According to experts, the proportion of retail sales online has more than doubled in the last decade, up from 12% in May 2015 to 27% in May 2025.<\/p>\n<p>Digital advertising body IAB UK says advertisers&rsquo; spend on social media content grew by 20% last year \u2013 standing at a total of \u00a38.87bn.<\/p>\n<p>Zaheen Ahmed, director of therapy at The UKAT Group, which runs addiction treatment centres across the country, says they have seen more people with a shopping addiction.<\/p>\n<p>He explains that the hormonal anticipation of a purchase could be equated to the reaction of a drug user securing a hit.<\/p>\n<p>Mr Ahmed says that social media use as part of smartphone ownership is \u00ab\u00a0the new normal\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0Social media is impacting our lives big time and it is contributing to our urge to buy, urge to spend, urge to interact every time.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Shopping became a coping mechanism for issues surrounding Alyce&rsquo;s self-confidence and esteem.<\/p>\n<p>She started using Buy Now Pay Later schemes when she was aged 18 &#8211; a decision she describes as a \u00ab\u00a0gateway\u00a0\u00bb to other credit.<\/p>\n<p>In the end, Alyce, from Bristol, was saddled with debts of \u00a39,000 after spending up to \u00a3800 each month on new items, particularly ordering clothes online.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0The more I had to open, the more excitement there was.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0But once I opened the parcels, the buzz would wear off and I&rsquo;d be sad again &#8211; so then the cycle continues.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0Social media is essentially another version of QVC, but one younger generations can watch,\u00a0\u00bb the 25-year-old says.<\/p>\n<p>Alyce, who works in business administration, has since overcome her addiction with therapy and is now almost debt free.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0If I hadn&rsquo;t done that, I don&rsquo;t really know where I would be,\u00a0\u00bb she says.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0It does genuinely change your way of thinking and creeps into everything you do &#8211; your whole life revolves around payday when you can shop again.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0It just becomes so overwhelming.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>The NHS says it is possible to become addicted to just about anything &#8211; but there&rsquo;s no distinct diagnosis for a shopping addiction.<\/p>\n<p>One reason is because experts dispute how to classify it, with some believing it is a behavioural addiction, while others link it to mood or obsessive compulsive disorders.<\/p>\n<p>Professor of addiction at the University of York Ian Hamilton says shopping addiction has \u00ab\u00a0caught psychiatry on the back foot\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<p>The expert, who has worked in the field for three decades, said he believes we are still two or three years from the disorder being more widely recognised as a formal diagnosis.<\/p>\n<p>Prof Hamilton says the retail sector has lifted some of the strategies used by the gambling industry to keep people engaged online.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0I don&rsquo;t think it&rsquo;s any accident that people find it difficult once they start this loop of spending, buying, feeling good then having remorse.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>The academic adds the rise of influencers is not just a coincidence.<\/p>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0It&rsquo;s one thing having an item described to you, [but that] doesn&rsquo;t have the same impact as seeing a glossy well-put together video package which extols the virtue of an item and only shows the positives.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>Pamela Roberts, psychotherapist at the healthcare provider Priory Group, is clear:  \u00ab\u00a0We need to learn different coping strategies but we can only learn [them] when it&rsquo;s recognised as a problem &#8211; and that&rsquo;s only done when it&rsquo;s made official,\u00a0\u00bb she adds.<\/p>\n<p>An NHS spokesperson said: \u00ab\u00a0NHS Talking Therapies provides treatment for a range of conditions including OCD and provides practical skills and techniques to help cope.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<p>They added that anyone struggling with obsessive and compulsive behaviour can contact their GP or refer themselves for therapy.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A day of retail therapy can be just the ticket for some people to help them feel better about themselves. 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